in love, we grow...

Paolo Coelho in his book "By the river Piedra I sat down and wept" writes -

"...and with love, there are no rules. Some may try to control their emotions and develop strategies for their behavior; others may turn to reading books of advice from "experts" on relationships - but this is all folly. The hearts decides, and what it decides is all that really matters.
All of us have had this experience. At some point, we have each said through our tears. " I'm suffering for a love thats not worth it." we suffer because we feel we are giving more than we receive. we suffer beacuse or love is going unrecognised. we suffer because we are unable to impose our own rules"
But ultimately there is no good reason for suffering, for in every love lies the seed of our growth. The more we love, the closer we come to spiritual experience. Those who are truely enlightened, those whose souls are illuminated by love, have been able to overcome all of the inhibitions and preconceptions of thier era. They have been able to sing, to laugh, and to pray out loud; they have danced and shared what Saint Paul called "the madness of saintliness." They have been joyful - because those who love conquer the world and have no fear of loss. True love is an act of total surrender."

..for in every love lies the seed of our growth...

Yes maybe everytime we love, we learn to love...a little more selflessly...a little more wholeheartedly, a little more lovingly...and we grow...