Fantasies....

the dictionary meaning of Fantasies is - " imagination, esp. when extravagant and unrestrained."

Imagination - I get that. So I assume these imaginations are borne out of desires....one imagines what one desires, and does not have.

"when extravagant" - So there has to be some standard by which some things are extravagant, and some are not. And these standards can be relative.

"unrestrained" - what are the restrictions? Restrictions on imagination? Restrictions on desires? These are probably the standards set by the society, or ourselves, about what is acceptable and what is not, what is right and what is not. What can we desire and what we SHOULD not desire, what we CAN have...and how much of it etc etc.

So, as I see it, there is a lot of difference between "wishes/desires" and " fantasies". So desires are your legitimate wishes...ones that you are allowed to really fulfill, and fantasies are those desires, which you can only desire..and should not really fulfill...how much ever badly you may want them. And sometimes, it even bad to want them !

I don't know if this difference that exists..is a good thing or a bad thing. I guess a little bit of both.

In my mind, I have two folders, one of wishes, desires...which I wish come true...and its very possible that they may....and nothing wrong with them.

Then there is the "fantasies" folder....these are desires...that I may want to fulfill...but don't have the courage to do so..because they are not in accordance with the "shoulds" and "cans" set by my mind. Sometimes, life moves one of those files from the fantasies folder, to the Wishes folder....and I think...maybe, just maybe, its not too bad to wish for this...and maybe it may even come true....and it may be a nice thing to happen. And some desires, burried under the WISE and RIGHT thinking, just remain there....as fantasies..